catface-mcgee said: what does ‘incidentally attracted’ mean exactly? I’m a confused gay-ish person :( I like girls a lot and I like some boys sometimes but not often or a lot, and also the thought of even kissing them makes me want to dig a hole and live in it forever
I’m no authority on the matter but I think this is actually a time where scales/numbers/phrases are more valuable to someone figuring themselves out than an identity label is. I can only tell you how I’d think if I were experiencing what you do (and I have earlier in my life), but I put myself as someone who wavers between kinsey 5-6. When I’m at 5 is when I feel “incidental attraction” to masculine presenting people or at least attraction that falls outside of my norm. This includes not just valuing someone’s appearance but also maybe the occasional fantasy (granted, my fantasies never star me anyway). “Pretty gay” “Mostly gay” is fine. “Incidentally attracted” means that it happens enough to be incidental, but the frequency of it is low enough that it’s not a constant, especially in comparison to your far more dominant and ever-present attraction.